Born for This

A She, Confident Update

I never knew what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I wasn’t the kid who was born knowing I wanted to be a doctor (ew, blood) or a lawyer (big words were boring.  Judiciary? Nah.) or even a schoolteacher- I didn’t even like babysitting so I couldn’t imagine overseeing that many kids all day every day.  The weird thing is, I have always known though, deep down, that I was designed to do big things and make an impact on people’s lives.  I just wasn’t sure how.

I wrote a few weeks ago about how I landed in the line of work I’m currently in.  I always joke that it was by accident, being in the right place at the right time.  One evening I went to a makeup party determined to just buy a lip gloss and left stepping into a career that has been everything to me and my family for the past 15 years!  I have a secret though.  I’m not exactly obsessed with skincare and cosmetics.  Don’t get me wrong.  I love the products my company produces and I am so blessed to be able to be associated with this company.  I don’t use anything else and I’m ending my 30’s soon wrinkle free and wearing my favorite lipstick.  I’ve seen it transform people’s skin.  But that’s not really what I have built my career on. 

I fully believe that all these years traveling and talking to mostly women about the right skincare regimen and even more importantly helping other women begin their careers with our company has been the secret to my success so far.  What has kept me going all these years has been the people I have been able to connect with and in turn help feel seen, important, sometimes unstoppable, and hopefully more confident in themselves. 

Life is funny.  Just when you get comfortable and think you have it all figured out, something changes and turns it all over on the floor for you to pick up and sort out in a different way.  I started She, Confident almost five months ago in a desperate attempt to pull myself out of a funk the only way I knew how.  Helping women, having an impact on their lives, making them see their self-worth, find their self-confidence, becoming more self-assured was like a B12 shot right in the hip when my energy was being drained by a lot of technical difficulty and desk work that comes on the other side of running our business. I thought I’d write some blog posts, maybe start a little Facebook group, and quite honestly I wasn’t really sure anyone would pay attention or want to join.

You can do more than you think you can do!

Here’s what I’ve found out.  There were women waiting for me to get started.  Hundreds of women, in fact.  They were out there, observing others, never really feeling a part of anything.  Women were feeling intimidated by each other.  Many were feeling judged by each other, not worthy.  They weren’t realizing that the woman they saw everyday at the school, or on Sundays at church, or even right in their office weren’t in fact judging them but feeling the very same thing!  I get messages every other day thanking me for just shining a light in the dark little corners we all tend to hide away in.  I’ve been bringing everyone out into the light where they can join hands with the other women in their community to walk in the sunshine.

Speaking of sunshine, I went to Rise Business Conference in Charleston this weekend that I plan to write more about later.  I was privileged to be able to stay downtown for a few days with some friends who attended with me after the conference was over.  We were walking down the sidewalk in the French Quarter and it was a beautiful day.  Taking a moment just to be grateful and appreciate where I was, I noticed that it felt like the warmth of the sun was centered right over my heart.  I realized right then that that’s exactly how my She, Confident Community makes me feel. 

I’m 38 years old and so stinking excited about the future.  Starting something new has made all of the difference.  I’m reenergized and hyper focused on building my skincare business bigger than it’s ever been and at the same time have so many ideas swirling around in my head about the direction I want to take She, Confident in.  At the conference I picked up a sticker in the gift shop to slap on my water bottle.  It simply says “You can do more than you think you can do!” I believe it and if I can you can too.  Get out there and chase your big idea.

Mindy Boyd is the president of Aloette Skincare and Cosmetics in Mississippi/Arkansas and the founder of SheConfidentSite.com.  She, Confident is  a platform speaking self-confidence and encouraging love and support and friendship building amongst women across North America.Mindy lives in Pricedale with her husband Blake and their two children.